Bobbie Wayne's Blog

Short writings by Bobbie Wayne, writer, musician and visual artist. Her stories have appeared in The Ravens Perch, Intrinsick, SLAB, Blueline Magazine, and Colere literary journal. Her new book "Lifelines" is available from Amazon.

Exactly who are we Celebrating?

Why did they have to squish Washington’s and Lincoln’s birthdays together? I do not support celebrating all of our presidents; we’ve had some really awful ones. A few that come to mind are James Buchanan, who provided extremely poor leadership just prior to the Civil War, and Andrew Johnson, who not only mis-managed Reconstruction but actually took away the hard-won civil rights from newly-freed enslaved people. The millions of lives lost in the Civil War were for naught because of this man. The ensuing misery and civil disruption caused by the system of Jim Crow segregation that was allowed to exist from the 1860’s through the 1960’s would not have happened had Lincoln not been murdered and replaced by Johnson and his racist policies.

There are many other presidents who did not take their job seriously; people who accomplished little, not because they were blocked by the opposing party, but because they regarded their role as their destiny. Others spent their term embroiled in scandals. Richard Nixon, deserves credit for creating the Environmental Protection Agency, The Clean Air and Clean Water Acts, as well as improving the US’s relationships with China and the Soviet Union. But his determination to win the war in Vietnam, hardened him against the public, the press and those who opposed him. Nixon resorting to criminal activity that eventually unseated him. Like Johnson and Buchanan, Nixon’s stubbornness cost the lives of nearly a third of those who fought in the Vietnam war. 

We should be celebrating George Washington for one specific reason: he resigned his military commission at the war’s end and became the country’s first President. Like all men, Washington made mistakes; big mistakes. He attacked a party of allies during the French and Indian War, mistakenly signed a document admitting to the assignation of a French officer, and lost most of the battles he fought. His fortune was come by through marriage and maintained by the system of slavery. He had a temper that would put George Patton to shame and it was said he could out-swear most of his men and could drink them all under the table. So what?

The Presidency should never be a personality contest. The President of America is the head of both state and government, and Commander in Chief of the armed forces. He/she must execute and enforce the laws made by Congress. The person holding this office represents the Face of America to the world. Because America has always been a country populated by immigrants from everywhere, it must contend with different cultures, religions, languages and belief systems, all striving to be dominant. The person holding the office of the President must first and foremost be able to understand and uphold the Constitution and respect the delicate balance of Executive, Judicial and Legislative branches. Our founders knew the importance of keeping these three separate to avoid any one gaining too much power. Like a three-legged stool, it will tip over if one of the legs is longer than the others.

Let us not celebrate Presidents just because they managed to get elected. Establishing President’s Day as a national holiday is just like having a national holiday for artists, bus drivers, undertakers, etc; nice, but not necessary. National holidays should celebrate exceptional individuals; not just those who show up for work. Let’s go back to celebrating George Washington’s birthday because he worked hard during his term, and sacrificed his personal life for his country. Most importantly, when his term was over, George Washington relinquished power, establishing the precedent of the peaceful transfer of power. 

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Painting the Roses

Dan and I learned long ago that going out the week before Valentine’s Day for dinner is a bad idea. Not only are the prices doubled; you are likely to be in a crowded, noisy space. Somewhere along the line, the idea of a candle-lit room with music being played while couples sip their wine and speak in quiet voices as they gaze into each other’s eyes went the way of the dodo bird. It was replaced by crowded up-scale restaurants with televisions lining one wall and pop music blasting so loudly that the diners are obliged to shout at each other to be heard over the din. 

I read that restauranteurs adopted this platform in the belief that it creates “buzz, which means more people will want to be where the action is. This may have been true for me when I was in my early twenties, but being exceedingly poor during that period of my life, I never ate in restaurants; I just worked in them. These days, I don’t hear well in crowds and having six televisions flashing “BREAKING NEWS!!!” has all the ambience of being trapped in a traffic jam in a construction zone. 

Instead of going out, I usually make a special dinner, and we sip champagne and listen to jazz, or chamber music. I try to give the room a bit of sparkle with red candles and some flowers. This year, I began looking two days ago for a bouquet, since the prices for most flowers double or triple the closer we get to Valentine’s Day. But to my surprise, the store manager anticipated my move and raised the prices earlier than ever.

There were the roses, the reds and the whites, out of my price range. Additionally, there were bouquets of assorted colors of flowers and greenery, most of which had a rose included. Again, pricey and not to my taste. Yes, I could have gone to a real florist and purchased gorgeous flowers, but spending great amounts of money for something that is so transitory seems wrong. So I chose a bouquet of red and white flowers, mostly daisies and carnations wrapped in festive red tissue paper.

When I got home and removed the paper, preparing to trim the flowers and arrange them in a vase, I notices that at least half of the “red” flowers had been spray-painted, along with their stems and leaves. My first impulse was to try to wash the paint off so the poor flowers could breathe. Someone had actually taken fresh flowers and spray-painted them to make it appealing!

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Splintered

Re-finishing our bedroom door, I had lain it across two sawhorses in our garage. Since our house was built in1859, the door had many layers of milk paint, oil paint and latex, all of which were peeling and bumpy like an old billboard. I was using an industrial paint remover, but that only worked on the 20th c. layers; milk paint is forever! Along with paint scrapers, I had used many sheets of sandpaper, which got ruined by all the balls of gummy schmutz: old paint, paint remover and sawdust. 

It was a hot day, even with the garage door open. I was sweating and the sweat dripped into the goo on the door’s surface, making it worse. Removing my big heavy work gloves I wiped my wet face with the back of my hand. I looked with disgust at all the paint chips and dust on the surface and reflexively swiped my un-gloved hand across the door’s surface to brush it all off. Instantly, I felt a sharp stab of pain in my finger. A jagged piece of wood had separated from the surface and part of it was sticking out of the side of my ring finger. Cursing, I ran upstairs and pulled the wood out with my tweezers. Dousing the wound with Peroxide, I went back to work. 

That night, my finger throbbed terribly. I feared dirt and paint remover had gotten inside the wound and infected it. I kept antibiotic cream on it, but the pain persisted, keeping me awake. After a few nights of this, I checked the wound with a magnifying glass, but saw nothing. “This finger is still sore from the splinter and it’s been a whole week,” I complained to Dan as weI lay in bed. Absently, I massaged my finger and was surprised to feel a sharp point on each side.  Touching both at once, I could feel movement inside the injured finger. A part of the splinter had gone straight through the lower part of my finger and was still in there!

Next week, my hand surgeon and I stared at the x-ray. That splinter was the size of a toothpick and had gone into my pinky finger as well! As we scheduled surgery to remove it, I heard a nurse exclaim, “You gotta see this x-ray. You won’t believe it!” to another nurse. The wood was surgically removed the following week. What I had hoped was a very minor problem had turned out to be costly and time consuming…all because I hadn’t been paying attention.

Our American government, like my hand, has been wounded through inattention. Americans have always paid dearly for our unsolved problems: racism, sexism, and inequality. These are so deeply ingrained in our culture that it takes constant vigilance and effort to keep them in check. Recently, we failed to pay attention to the job at hand. We didn’t notice that we had removed our intellectual work gloves; we had grown lazy and self-absorbed. Before we knew it, our culture was full of splinters of greed, ignorance and self-righteousness.

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A Long Way Down

It is the morning of Thanksgiving Eve in 2018. We’ve moved to Marblehead in May and things are mostly in their places. All was going well until last September. Dan and Liberty were attacked by yellow jackets and Liberty got stung way in the back of her mouth. She reacted first by not being able to eat without pain and then began to develop huge black blisters on her muzzle. We have spent the last months taking her to specialists who are stumped by the blisters and who keep prescribing various drugs, notably, Prednisone. Liberty reacts to the pain by hiding and refusing to eat. I feed her by hand, literally; one mouthful at a time. Eventually, the sting will turn into an abscess which will enter the bone and require surgery on her jaw. We won’t know that for several more months. I do alot of crying.

But this morning I am not in tears because I am looking forward to going to NYC for Thanksgiving at  Linda Russell, our old friend,’s apartment. Linda and I both love to cook and have shared many a feast at Easter and Thanksgiving. I have yet to pack and am still in my animal-print pj’s and slippers. I’m carrying Liberty’s big plastic crate back downstairs. It’s empty, but it is big enough to block my view.

I need to interject that the stair treads in our new house are much more narrow than any in our last residences. Going upstairs, I keep banging my toes, while my heels hang in mid-air. In the future, I will develop a “duck walk” position going downstairs so that my whole foot is on the step. However, on this Thanksgiving Day eve, in the early morning, I can’t look down at my feet because of the big crate I’m holding. So, when my slipper slides, ever so slightly on the top step, I lean backward so as not to fall down the stairs. But my slipper keeps sliding and I sit down, HARD on the landing; so hard that I bounce upward. I hear myself say, “Uh-oh,” as I realize I can’t right myself.

Dan is downstairs, watching me. I see his lips move as he screams, “NO! NO! NO!!!” I can’t let go of the crate or see where I am in space since my view is blocked. I am tumbling over and over the crate down the flight of thirteen wooden steps. It feels like I’m in an industrial-sized dryer with four or five bricks: the fall itself seems slow and dreamlike, punctuated by incredible blows to the head, back and legs. I am furious that I can’t seem to stop the fall nor the pounding I’m getting. I want to hit someone back!

And then…suddenly everything is eerily still. Dan has stopped screaming; he is frozen with terror. I am splayed out on the tile at the foot of the stairs like a rag doll with the crate nowhere in sight. My head rests on the first step. I consider my cervical fusion and tentatively move my head to see if my neck is broken. I arch my back, wiggle my feet and bend my knees. By now, Dan’s white face is bending over me. “Can you move? Is anything broken?” he says.

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A TASTE OF SOPHISTICATION

I read in the New York Times that Paris Hilton had lost her house in the great LA wildfire last week. This is sad. Losing one’s home means losing treasured memories, photos, etc.

“Is she the one who is famous for going to parties?” Dan asks.

“I thing she has a business now, but, yes, she’s a socialite and a Hilton,” I reply. This conversation took place last weekend and I only recalled it because we stayed in the Hilton Doubletree Hotel in Hartford last night. I was performing a story at a Speak Up Storytelling event in the Connecticut Museum of Culture and History, a two hour drive from home.

In the olden days when we did a lot of musical gigs in folk clubs we stayed in budget motels and on stranger’s couches. Dan had a day job but I was a free-lance signpainter and also worked with a marionette theater. We needed every dollar and would never have dreamed of staying in a hotel, much less a Hilton. But things drastically improved for us during Dan’s retirement. The Hilton is close to the museum so Dan booked a room with a king-sized bed for overnight. I must say the bed was comfortable, the shower had good pressure and hot water, the toilet flushed and they provided Crabtree and Evelyn guest soap. 

The room looked as though it had been designed by a group of art school flunk-outs. It had all the ambience of my childhood dentist's waiting room. The color-scheme was primarily dark brown, black and dingy oyster white. The black and brown rug had turquoise accents and the pattern that reminded me of standing atop a rotting deck. The wall across from the bed was dominated by a gigantic black screen mounted on an even larger brown rectangle. To the right of this monolith was a metal door with so many locks and bolts it could have been in a New York City apartment. This apparently lead to the room next door. On the screen’s other side was a huge round mirror that looked like a four foot Shaker tray with a brown edge that stuck out into the room.

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A Question of Scale

Short, small, measly, slight: all words which can be used to mean “less than what was expected, rather disappointing or meagre.” As I have aged, my own height has diminished by two inches, granting my childhood wish to be short like my friends. I remember my initial shock when, at thirty, I first heard Randy Newman’s satirical song, “Short People,” in which he describes their having, “little hands, little eyes. They walk around tellin’ great big lies.”Randy concludes, “Don’t want no short people ‘round here.” Newman’s song was a parody on prejudice…obviously. However, in America, where many of us take every comment as a personal attack, people jumped to be on the correct side of this issue: “Why, I myself have MANY friends who are short!” they sniffed, nostrils flared.

We haven’t learned much since the release of “Short People” in 1977. The truth is, Americans generally prefer things to be tall, big, bountiful, and over the top. We build bigger houses, purchase larger cars, expect “all-you-can-eat” portions of food and need larger sized clothes as a result. We like our music loud, insistent, and omnipresent, sharing it with others, whether they want to hear it or not. We adore sporting events and concerts which are huge spectacles and we build ever-larger stadiums in which to attend them. If we can’t be there, we have television screens that are larger than the home-movie screens of my childhood, and twice the size of the floor of my New York apartment bathrooms. 

I don’t recognize New York City these days for all the tall, faceless, rectangular glass and steel luxury sky-condos poking upwards like so many middle fingers, inappropriately dwarfing the brownstones in the neighborhood. What’s so great about towering over everything?

“Big box” stores sell us things in bulk, supposedly saving time and money which we use to shop online from home. We turn to the modern-day genie, Amazon, to grant our every wish. Big chain stores like Walmart, Home Depot, Target, once struck the death knell for family businesses, small shops, drugstores and the downtowns of America. Now, these dynostores cringe at the very mention of Amazon, the TYRANNOSTORIS which gobbles up malls, services and the media alike. We are so spoiled; we are willing to sacrifice all of the small pleasures which used to define and give meaning to our lives in the name of convenience and progress.

So before we are all sucked into the black hole of the 21st century, disappearing in the name of “bigger is better,” let us recall a few small, but powerful things:

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A Sweet Legacy

In 1969, during the summer after graduating from college, I lived in a Conestoga wagon in the wood at a camp in Berks Co., PA. The camp was in a Pennsylvania Dutch area, set deep within the woods of the Blue Mountains. Many of the counsellors came from Lancaster, Litizt,  and other Pa Dutch areas. Many came from farms. One of the young counsellors, Crissy Bucher, became my room-mate a year later, when I rented my first apartment. She had come from a farm community and since we cooked Pa Dutch food, she gave me her mom’s sugar cookie recipe, which had come into her family from a neighbor, Helen Phillips.

 Like many Pa Dutch recipes, these cookies are plain, using butter, flour and sugar with a little baking powder. They are rolled out to an eighth of an inch and then cut with tin cookie cutters. One may add a touch of vanilla, lemon, or other flavoring or leave them plain. I use anise. My cookie cutters were probably very old when I bought them at one of the many Pa antique barns I used to haunt. I ice them with icing piped on from icing I make from butter, cream and confectioner’s sugar. Each is a little work of art and I have made them every year since 1971.

Thirty-five years ago, when I was performing my music and instrumentals in clubs and at festivals. My best friend, Colonial balladeer, Linda Russell, suggested I create a Christmas show. Dan and I were living in Nyack, upriver from the City. Nyack is a pretty little river town along the Hudson and is filled with antique shops. I took a pile of books about the origins of American Christmas customs and sat outside of a cafe shop every day drinking numerous cups of cappuccino and creating a script for a show I would later call, “Greensleeves.”

Once I had a script, it was time to select songs to sing and play on my harp. That first year, I used mostly songs everyone was familiar with: The Holly and the Ivy, Silent Night, etc., but i continued doing the show, I added songs in French, Gaelic, Spanish, and Italian. I had sewn a costume of dark green velveteen with a silver underskirt and silver trim. The gown has  a medieval look. A holly wreath on my hair completes the picture.

I performed the show at churches, town halls and historic sites; some years doing four to five performances during December. But one thing was missing: presents. So I started handing out Helen Phillips’ Rollout Cookies recipes after the show to the audience. It is likely over a thousand people got them over the years in New York, New Jersey, Pennsylvania, Tennessee, and Massachusetts. 

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The Music Thief

I used to go to the Lincoln Center Library at the Juilliard School when I was an abstract artist  in Lower Manhattan through the 1980’s. I would hang out there listening to recordings of opera or find the scores for arias I wanted to learn. I had an undergraduate degree in music, but my schooling was so inferior that I could barely read notation. I didn’t play an instrument. I had planned to study opera on a graduate level, but found the make-up courses would have amounted to another four-years of study at another school. 

Having no money for further study, I was hired by the state of Pennsylvania in 1969 to work as a music therapist. Over the course of six years, I worked in three state facilities, eventually becoming Director of music Therapy at the last. I had no degrees in psychology or education; I couldn’t get a job again without being certified. I couldn’t get certified without those degrees. I quit anyway, at the urging of my friends, who knew I belonged in the arts.

I applied for art school, after taking a summer of basic classes in drawing and painting. I was shocked to be invited to join an experimental Masters Degree program. The fact that I hadn’t been “corrupted” by studying representational art worked on my behalf. I spent two years making abstract art in a studio, secretly sneaking off to take undergrad courses. Once again, I graduated with an empty degree. But by now I was thirty. It was the abstract art world or nothing. 

With the  $7,000 my mother left me when she died, I moved to New York in the winter of 1977. Spending a third of that as “key” money to rent a loft, I spent a lot more on wood, tools, electrical supplies and books to teach myself how to build a living space put of a warehouse. I was in Tribeca, with little art training and no job skills, spending my days struggling at something I didn’t really want to do. I felt like a fraud. My neighbors drove me crazy with their parties and their loud, drecky music. I needed visits to Lincoln Center to stay sane.

At that time, if you wanted sheet music for an aria or a song from a Broadway musical, you had to go to a music store, hoping they might have what you wanted or you could go to the Lincoln Center library, find the score and copy the piece you needed on the coin-operated Xerox machine in the hallway. There was always a long line of musicians and students with bad haircuts who couldn’t afford to buy a whole score when they just needed to learn one piece from it. 

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JUST WATCH

From the camera's vantage point, I can see the tops and backs of people’s heads. As is her habit, my friend Linda sits in the second pew from the altar. Although the camera presents a somewhat blurry image of those down in front, I know it is Linda, who is fairly tall and has long brown wavy hair. Because of the blur, I take the triangular shape of her head and hair for a Christmas tree until the congregation stands to sing a hymn and I can see her green patterned coat. I can also hear her voice soaring through the singing. I wonder if she can feel me watching her, hundreds of miles away in Massachusetts.

I opened Zoom late, coming in during the sermon. I look at the spot where I I usually sit when my husband Dan and I visit New York at Easter to see our old friends. No one is sitting there. Sometimes, I tell Linda I saw her in church, describing her coat or dress. Weird…The world has become so damn weird!

When my dad was transferred from NYC to Maryland, in 1962, I was prevented from entering my progressive, arts-oriented high school in Merrick, Long Island. Instead, I attended a high school with a choir so awful I quit, an art teacher who threw a wooden drawing board down the stairwell at me, and no drama department or creative writing program. I didn’t get to study any of the things I needed to fulfill my dream of being a Broadway performer.

My fellow students were nice but artistically unsophisticated; we did not share the same interests. There were no cell phones or computers and long-distance calls were expensive. I cried and drank at home and spent my time writing letters to my friends back home in NY.

I pretended that my friends were next door, in my grandmother’s bedroom; I just couldn’t see or hear them. Letters arrived from Merrick full of details about the choir winning competitions, the musicals and plays everyone was involved in; trips into the City to visit the Guggenheim or the Met. I imagined everything I was missing so clearly that it was as if I were still there, or watching from out of my body…

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Precious Dust

In the rural town of Townsend, MA, there are many antique shops housed in former barns and farmhouses. Townsend is just half an hour from American K9 Country, in Amherst, NH, Liberty’s training and boarding facility. We usually pass through whenever we go to Western Massachusetts, or if we are boarding Liberty and then driving to New York or Pennsylvania. We have visited lots of those antique shops over the years. Primarily long buildings with rows of vendors, cubicled-off from one another, they sell pretty much the same stuff you find in your parent’s or grandparent’s basement, attic or garage: old Formica kitchen tables, mason jars, Bakelite dish-ware, doilies, worn-out toys, and furniture that has seen lots of use. Some have displays of coins, faded photographs, rugs, paintings, records and strange, unfashionable clothing you can’t imagine anyone ever wearing. The stuff in these shops usually dates from the 1900’s to the 1970’s.

But today we visited Antique Associates of west Townsend, situated in an old ochre-colored farmhouse and barn with dark cranberry trim. The rooms were just as they had been when the building was used as a farmhouse: small, dark with crooked wooden floors and staircases leading you to places other than you had expected. Tole-painted hope chests, rockers and cradles, beautifully primitive and un-signed filled the first room. A carved wooden painted bowl from the 1700’s, large enough for me to fit in, sat atop a rustic table.

Many of the narrow second-floor rooms were lined on both sides with glass cases, which held early pottery, Redware, Native American baskets, 18th and 19th c. miniatures, pewter, early glass wear, daguerrotypes and hand-made toys. Other rooms and hallways were filled with portraits of and by anonymous people from the 19th c. The quality of the paintings as well as their frames and their excellent condition showed them to have been gently cared for. Beautifully-made 18th c. furniture filled other rooms along with desks, beds, chests and boxes decorated with faux-grain to make the wood look expensive. We passed by George Washington’s, Daniel Webster’s and the King of Sweden’s portraits hanging alongside paintings of schooners.

A well-lit but narrow hallway was lined on both sides with 18th and 19th c. pistols, swords, and rifles, safely locked behind glass. They ranged from a tiny derringer small enough to hide in one’s hand to a dark, cumbersome-looking blunderbuss, whose barrel ended in the shape of a clarinet. It resembled the hunter’s guns from my illustrated childhood album cover of “Peter and the Wolf.” All looked as if they had been well-cared for. Most had been used in Europe and America’s endless wars. Like the carefully-preserved toys in other exhibits they lay silently on their white cloth background.

“How many of you have killed someone?” I murmured as I passed by. Needlepoint samplers, crafted by young maidens, displayed gentility and skill. The elaborate samplers, un-doubtably made by girls lucky enough to have the leisure time and training, hung in gilded frames. We followed more stairs to the first floor where were rooms full of crockery, beautifully shaped to hold grains, flour, seeds and liquids. 

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Missing my Grandfather

I never met Lloyd H. Mears, my maternal grandfather. Due to a situation that requires a long story which I will save for another time, we had no pictures of him, or my grandmother and mother when they were young. I did find a daguerrotype which may be Lloyd as a youth, with his father. I have sought my grandfather since I was thirteen, writing to old relatives on the Eastern Shore of Maryland, where he and my grandmother grew up, for information or a photo. There existed a picture of him at one time, but, tantalizingly, it has vanished like the wind.

Here is the sum total of my knowledge of Lloyd: Like his dad, John Henry, he worked as a conductor for the railroad for a time. He eloped with my grandmother, Elsie Pearl, running away to New York. My cousin Earl, grandson of Lloyd’s sister, said he was a natty dresser, loved horses, the drink and had a weakness for gambling. My mom, an only child like I am, adored him. He got work as a butcher, working for wealthy folk who took him on yachts. He and my mom would eat kippers for breakfast on Sundays. My grandmother said “He was very clean, never coming home from the butcher shop with any blood on his clothes.”

My father said, “He looked like a little Irishman.” And Lloyd, like my mother, loved to laugh. Apparently, he was a practical joker, since I have this story from my mother about him:

Lloyd was waiting for a streetcar in NYC when he thought he recognized a buddy just ahead of him. So, by way of a joke, he gave him a good kick in the butt. Obviously astounded, the man turned, to see Lloyd grinning from ear to ear. As soon as my grandfather realized that the man was a stranger, not his friend, the shock of what he had just done drove any explanation straight out of him, replacing what should have been an apology with a fit of hysterical laughter.   The enraged man, not understanding why a stranger would kick him and then laugh about it, punched him in the nose. 

This story loomed large in my imagination when I was growing up. I tucked it away in my memory with the other scraps of things I knew about my grandfather, bringing it out whenever I was bored or lonely like a much-read love letter. I always wondered if he would have liked me. I was a sad, disoriented teenager who didn’t laugh often. I figured I had nothing in common with Lloyd; perhaps he didn’t want me to find him…

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RALLY

Our Border Collie, Liberty, will turn eight on Valentine’s Day. Where had the time gone? She and I spent the last six years training for and competing in agility trials. Each dog and their handler race around a course that consists of jumps, weave poles, tunnels, see-saws, etc. The handler (me) walks the course and has to develop a strategy for getting the dog to move as rapidly as possible from one obstacle to the next. There are many choices to be made: Which hand does one use to signal the dog? How close to the obstacle must the hander run before running to the next one? When should the handler run fast or slow? The choices are endless.

Liberty did very well, knowing the course better than I just from watching other dogs. I have a learning disability which causes me perceptual problems, making it difficult to read maps, and do arithmetic. I also reverse lefts and rights, and even have difficulty typing, writing things like “ot,” instead of “to.” I can’t remember patterns easily, so, recalling my course strategy was torture. “This will be good for me…a challenge!” I told myself. If Liberty had a better handler without a perceptual problem, she could have been a champ. She was faster and smarter than most of her classmates. All the same, we had fun competing and going to classes. Last spring, Liberty, on several occasions, appeared to limp the day after class. She was so fast and turned on a dime after a jump, that she may have been straining her tendons. Several trips to the vet and an x-ray made us finally conclude that Liberty’s agility days were behind her.

Instead, we have decided to participate in rally. This takes place on a course, as well, but there are no jumps: just cones or signs telling you what to do once you approach them. For example, a sign might say: “Off Set Serpentine Right". Below the words thereis a diagram of circles and arrows. This sign means that as you and your dog pass the sign, you will see three cones in a spread-out triangle. Your job is to duplicate the action depicted by the circles and arrows. Another sign reads: “Call Front Finish Right Halt” and has a picture of two big yellow arrows showing the motion one needs to make. Translation: your dog must face you, then walk around you and sit on your right side.

Liberty walks badly on leash. This is because there are crumbs on the arena floor from people rewarding their dogs. Rather than following me on the left at heel position with her head up, she assumes the “vacuum” position: head down scouring the floor, yanking us out of line to reach a crumb. It is also because we haven’t trained leash walking very well. We need to go back to puppy training on that.

I was fumbling with her leash and a bag of training treats, and Liberty’s constant breaking form kept me juggling everything. This made it hard for me to concentrate on each sign in time to accomplish the task required. Our trainer, Pam kept saying, “Keep your leash loose; don’t try to yank her head up…lure her up.” But, all the while, Liberty, (who only weighs 25 lbs, yet can pull me across the floor when I’m sitting on it,) was lunging right and left with all the tenacity and determination of a Pit Bull. “I’M not pulling the leash taught…SHE is!” I thought, sulking. We would come to the next sign and I would have to try to figure out which way to turn. The pictures confused me even more than the words. I kept going right, when the sign said left. I would almost have figured out what we were supposed to do when Liberty would give a yank and I would lose my train of thought.

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On the Merits of Having a Body

A sarcastic artist colleague once said, “The body is not here to help us.” I was in my 40’s, and, although I was already beginning to fall apart, thought my friend was being unnecessarily negative. At thirteen, I developed heel spurs, one of which had to be removed when I was in college; then again when it returned a few decades later. By twenty, my “floating ribs” were completely calcified like the ribs of a whalebone corset.

At the time my colleague made his comment, my neck was busy building bone spurs, surrounding collapsed disks, requiring two cervical fusions in my sixties. At present my neck is pinned together with rods, screws and bolts. In my fifties, I caught my foot while running and landed full-weight on my nose. I resembled one of Picasso’s “Demoiselles d’Avignon, until after surgery, where they put my nose back in place.

Multiple foot and hand surgeries followed. This is a small sample of some of my body’s health issues; the skeletal ones. My cervical breakdown caused thirty years of migraines, which, mercifully, ended with the first fusion. There were lots of other garden-variety problems, breast and cervical scares and other gross things people have to endure. Even when I had to get braces on my teeth in my mid-sixties, I stubbornly resisted believing my friend’s dictum.

You see, my friends who, like me, were working several jobs so they could be artists, writers and musicians, were often worse off than I. We couldn’t afford health care so simple problems escalated or went undiagnosed. Living in my lower Manhattan loft in the early 1980’s was like being in a Puccini opera; everyone struggled; some died. You went on and did your gigs anyway, shaking your fist at fate.

Then AIDS hit. Who complains about bone spurs when you’ve seen friends and loved ones dying of that plague? But then I caught a mysterious virus when I was artist-in-residence in a monastery. It went, to this day, un-identified, although I was tested for Lupus, AIDS, Cancer, MS, and Parkinson’s. Too ill to perform, I moved to Nashville with my husband where for eight years I was a songwriter. As my symptoms began to finally diminish, we moved back to MA, where I became a painter. By now, I had begun to re-appraise the idea that my body was not here to help me. I may have taken it a bit further: “MY BODY IS OUT TO DESTROY ME!”

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The Chosen Animal

Last week, Dan and I celebrated our thirty-second wedding anniversary by going to Harvard’s Natural History museum in Cambridge. It was a lovely warm, golden fall day and Dan actually found a metered parking spot which allowed us to park for two hours. Finding a metered parking spot in the Boston area, let alone Cambridge, is like a miracle: a good start to the day! 

We walked the few blocks to the Natural History museum. Beginning on the third floor with an exhibition of dinosaur skeletons, we made our way through vertebrate paleontology, Cenozoic mammals and finally, the arthropod exhibition. Creatures with many more legs on them than mammals or reptiles were displayed; some in jars, others pinned to cases both horizontal and vertical. An entire wall shimmered with beetles as luminous as rainbows. There was a moth the size of our dog. “Wow, think of the hole this mama could make in my sweater!” I told Dan. A few visitors chuckled. We left the creepy-crawlies and toured the Asian, Central & South American and African animal exhibits, through a room replicating a slice of a New England forest with its inhabitants. I noted the tips of the grey fox’s ears had eroded a bit. The weasels, wolves and beavers stoically guarded their areas; the very opposite of the active animals they had been in real life.

Skeletons of animals that had existed before humans seemed like they were created by Maurice Sendak. Big, hippo-like creatures with oddly shaped heads, tiny ancestors of horses only a foot tall with eight delicate toes, animals with claws, horns, proboscises and, extremely impressive fangs occupied glass cases, while above us, hanging from the ceiling were huge skeletons of creatures that lived in the water. We made our way downstairs to the mammals.

The Great Mammal Hall looked like Grand Central Station at rush hour, except frozen in time. Enclosed in glass cases along with mammals from their own continents were gazelles and every other imaginable deer-like species of all sizes, equines, marsupials, bears, camels, and one giraffe whose neck was so long it nearly reached the second floor. Along the perimeter of the room were Birds of the World, ranging from a hummingbird less than an inch in length to the twelve foot skeleton of New Zealand’s extinct Giant Moa. Several little boys rushed up and down the narrow isles pulling their parents and gasping in theatrical whispers, “WOAH!” at every new case containing surprising-looking creatures.

I was somewhat uncomfortable with the baleen whale skeleton suspended overhead. I worried it would come crashing down, shattering the glass cases, sending glass, bones, dusty fur, feathers and horns, causing a virtual stampede of all these dead creatures through my dreams. One aisle away from me, Dan exclaimed, “This is the scariest animal of all.” He faced a case holding the great apes: chimps, bonobos, guerrillas, and orangutans. Next to the crouching skeleton of a guerrilla stood the skeleton of a Homo Sapien. It posessed no horns, fangs, hooves, nails or other obvious natural weapons. I looked from the guerrilla to the human. Homo Sapien was so obviously defenseless compared to the other creatures. Had Harvard actually stuffed someone, male or female, and put them in the case, the naked body would have looked even more helpless than its skeleton, with only two legs for running, ending in soft bare feet. That delicate skin, whether dark or light was a defenseless layer which bled at the slightest scratch, burnt in the sun; froze in the snow.

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A Veil of Green

I am a restless soul and have moved over fifty-two times in my life. Over half of those moves were due to noisy neighbors with big speakers and bigger egos which rendered them entitled to do whatever they wanted, whenever they wanted to. I’ve also lived in five different states ( but I still identify as a New Yorker.) Throughout my journey I have had many friends, acquaintances, associates and lovers, most of whom are not great corespondents. I am still in touch with my two best childhood friends  byl and email. Facebook has put me back in contact with colleagues and the kids I knew from elementary and junior high school on Long Island. I met my husband, Dan, in 1982. We were roommates for ten years and have been married for another thirty-two.

However, my longest on-going relationship which has sustained me throughout my many moves, careers, and low periods where there was no one else to talk to is with Plant. Plant is a Bridal Veil plant, with lance-shaped one-half inch long leaves on delicate purple stems that cascade down from the flowerpot. When Plant is happy, he/she produces tiny white blossoms. At its healthiest, Plant becomes a ball of leaves and blossoms. 

I acquired Plant during one of the great bleak periods of my life. I was living in a log cabin ( the first log cabin built in Snowdenville, PA) which was on the grounds of a greenhouse. Having left art school in Baltimore during the 1972 gas shortage, I had moved there with my lover of six months. We had been living in-between Baltimore and Philadelphia, where he worked. This required both of us to commute in opposing directions every day for an hour and a half one-way. Needless to say, this caused a great deal of stress. Having lived in the log cabin all winter, my lover broke up with me and I had to move out.

Our landlord, who owned the cabin and the greenhouse was working when I walked in amongst all the plants. Despite my resolve, I burst into tears and the poor man was so overwhelmed that he told me to choose a plant as a gift. From that time on, Plant and I were inseparable. Plant would move with me a total of ten times in the next ten years. He/she was there throughout Grad school, lived in my artist loft in Tribecca while I built it, was in the apartments Dan and I shared, moved with us to Nashville, and finally ended up here in Massachusetts in the beginning of the 21st Century. 

Each spring and fall, I thin Plant out and re-pot him/her. I often plant the thinned-put part in the garden of wherever I happen to be living. There are very likely clones of Plant wherever I have lived. I usually let Plant live outside in the summer, which I call, “going to camp."  In 2010, Plant came very close to dying. It was my fault; the weather was growing colder at night. I should have checked for frost warnings. But Plant was so beautiful; just a ball of greenery and flowers, that I thought I would leave him/her out one more night.

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Just Like One of the Gang

It’s the time of the year when I book my holiday shows. My 18th c. harp is in South Carolina being restored (narrowly having escaped being crushed by the tree that came through the luthier’s shop roof). So Dan and I won’t be performing our 18th c. Christmas show this year. Instead, I’ll be performing my one-woman show, Greensleeves, a show I wrote thirty-five years ago and have been performing nearly every year since.

The show has changed considerably over time. I’ve added new dialogue and songs but I still wear the gown I made with an artificial holly wreath in my hair. Years ago, I cut my hair quite short and found an inexpensive wig for the show which I styled myself. I’ve gone through several wigs since then, as well as harps, shoes and wreaths.

My promo photo, however, has always been the same black and white profile of a much younger me. It, like the show, is thirty-five years old. I wear my green velvet quasi-medieval gown with silver underskirt and trim. My hair is dark honey-colored and curls down my shoulders and back. My neck is slim and long and there is a wreath of artificial holly on my head. These days I am not so slim and after two cervical fusions, my neck is not quite as long. My hair is much shorter and lighter. I decided I needed a new headshot and booked one with a photographer for the following Tuesday. Monday night, I gathered together my costume, jewelry, shoes and wig box, to make sure I could leave early Tuesday morning. 

My last Greensleeves performance was two years ago. When I took the wig out of its box the holly wreath looked like wilted cabbage. Unfortunately, I had sewn the curls in place around the wreath with invisible thread. To fix the wreath, I would have to take the wig apart. The clock read three hours until bedtime. I cut the thread and removed the wreath causing the curls to un-curl. It took an hour using layers of acrylic fabric glue to stiffen the holly leaves and dry them. The remaining the two hours were spent re-curling the hair and pinning it in place. It looked very different from before I had taken it apart: more like a Dolly Parton wig than what I was after, but I was too tired to work any longer.

On Monday morning, I applied my make-up, put on a front-opening bright orange dress and the wig, wreath and all, made some adjustments, and loaded my harp, costume and stool into the car. Worrying about the possibility of my breaking down in Salem wearing my strange, festive wig, I suddenly remembered: IT’S OCTOBER! Beginning sometime in September, the Goth population of Salem had already begun increasing; the front of the invasion. In October, Salem attracts over 100,000 visitors, many of them dressed as if going to a Horribles parade. Crowds of people on street corners wearing all colors of witch’s hats have been on the rise for weeks. As I made my way through the town, people swanned by in capes and tutu skirts. If I had broken down, no one would have noticed my holly-trimmed wig. I smiled and waved as I passed them.

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I'm Throwing You A Lifeline

If you’re wondering why I haven’t been as regular in posting my blog, it is because…(trumpet fanfare,) My book has just been published and I am busy sending out notices, setting up book signings, etc.

My book is called, LIFELINES, Daily Antidotes to Anxiety and Angst, and can be ordered by going to my website, bjwayne.com and clicking on the cover illustration. The book began as a series of daily assignments I gave myself to combat the serious anxiety disorder I developed in 2012. First, I identified what my stressors were: health problems, isolation, the direction of our society, especially regarding politics, climate change, lack of self-awareness among many people. Then, I set about creating tasks that I or anyone else could perform which would improve social skills, public behavior, communication with others as well as re-introduce empathy and kindness to society. 

After 2016, politics became more vicious, dividing families and friends. Thankfully, my disorder was under control and I began posting my daily tasks on social media. The incredible reaction I got made me consider consolidating my assignments into a book. In 2020, my book was accepted by a hybrid publisher with whom I worked, creating artwork for a cover. Unfortunately for me, shortly after signing with this publisher, they retired and the editor who had barely started to work with me bought the company. She and I were never on the same page about my book. I believe she saw it as another self-help book with a cute pink cover, cartoon illustrations and worksheets. Apparently, she had never experienced an anxiety disorder.

Lifelines, is more like a map out of a nightmare. Part philosophy, part ethics, the book attempts to help the reader become happier, kinder, and better informed. It employs art, music, dance and writing to draw one out into the world. There are “lifelines” which involve doing simple, fun things with older individuals, kids, and, especially, people with whom we usually have little contact. Many of the lifelines ask us to look up words that appear in the news that we misunderstand. Other lifelines teach us how to discern truth in the media. Learning to be responsible for our beliefs and actions creates well-being; the opposite of anxiety.

The book is illustrated throughout with beautifully done prints and pen-and ink illustrations (many of them, very humorous) from the 19th and early 20th centuries. In the 21st century, we have become more like the digital devices which totally occupy our time and less able to effectively communicate with other humans. Lifelines seeks to turn that fact around, one person at a time.

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Eency-Weency

Dan and I are in the shower, and I’m getting my back scrubbed. Through my wet, sudsy curls, I see it: a little spider climbing down the corner tiles a few feet from my face. It obviously does not enjoy getting wet, but rather than climbing higher toward the dry ceiling, the spider rappels its way down to where the spray bouncing off my body is sure to sweep it off the wall and down the drain. 

I am not afraid of spiders. I admire them for eating mosquitoes, dust mites, and flies. However, I prefer them to remain in the basement or outside, where I don’t have to clean up webby cocoons. Whenever I encounter one, I grab a small glass and a slip sheet and trap the creature. Then, I transport them to an alternate location where we won’t necessarily run into each other. I use this same method for other insects, except roaches (the natural enemy of all native New Yorkers), and centipedes, which sting and move so rapidly that they completely freak me out. 

Recently, a friend from a monthly pub sing introduced me to a song parody about the “Eensy-Weency spider.” The parody used the tune from Stan Rogers’ song, “The Mary Ellen Carter,” a wonderful song of sailors refusing to abandon their sunken fishing boat and their successful efforts to raise and restore her despite terrible odds. The chorus goes:

Rise again, rise again.
Though your heart it be broken, or life about to end
No matter what you’ve lost, be it a home, a love, a friend,
Like the Mary Ellen Carter, rise again.

The parody was written by another terrific songwriter, Bob Blue. Using the same theme of tenacity in the face of great adversity, Bob employed the childhood verse we all know relating how after the rain “washed the spider out” from climbing a drain spout as soon as the sun came out, “the Eency-Weency spider went up the spout again. Much like the lyrics of “The Mary Ellen Carter,” Bob’s new lyrics about the “Eency-Weency spider” counsel us to recall other heroes who persevered: Sisypus and Jack and Jill. Bob’s hilariously clever writing style is displayed in the chorus of his parody:

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For They Have no Voice

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about cruelty towards animals. We are born with the capacity for cruelty, as well as for kindness. People can be brutal for various reasons: pathology, where the brain doesn’t function in what society considers to be a normal manner, learned behavior, where one learns viciousness from being mistreated, or from modeling the behavior of a violent culture.

My college roommate lives in another state next door to a woman who owns a purebred, high-strung, intact male dog she bought as a puppy to replace her old female dog. While the woman claims to have been a breeder herself and therefore, knows “what this dog needs,” she refuses to exercise the dog, although he is a sporting dog. She failed to train him as a puppy and, as a result, the dog is wild and uncontrolled. The woman works all day and keeps the dog locked in his crate for six-hour stretches. She hired trainers, but, did not do the required work. She ignores constructive criticism, and will not listen to suggestions. This woman is in her seventies and is not in the best of health or financially secure. She won't sell the dog. She wants to break him.

Since this dog has food, water, and shelter and there seems to be no physical abuse, the law can do nothing. Animal Rights is still in its infancy in many parts of the world, including the US. The fact that puppy farms, dog and cock fighting, equine abuse, and cruel treatment of animals raised for food or entertainment still exist in this country is a testament to our lack of compassion for living creatures. 

There is a difference between ignorance and stupidity. Being ignorant implies not having access to knowledge. Stupidity is more nefarious. Most sources define stupidity as the willful disregard of good, available information. Humans are capable of treating living creatures with abject cruelty despite subscribing to philosophies and religions that teach us to treat other beings the way we want to be treated. In other words, we pay lip service to being kind, while we turn a blind eye to cruelty.

Whether it be physical or emotional, cruelty begets more of the same. Abused children (a larger topic for another blog) have a higher likelihood of growing up to be abusers or to commit violent crimes. This is no surprise: most creatures treated brutally learn to be vicious. Speak up, write letters, sign petitions; do whatever is in your power to change things. Animals love their lives as much as we human beings. They feel pain and respond to kindness and cruelty just as we do.

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If This is Tuesday, I Must be Irish

I wear a lot of hats. I’m a writer with a book weeks from being published, I was an artist and still have five paintings in our local gallery and a solo show in town this January. I play harp. Many of my hats come from the different styles of music I play, write, and perform. When I took up harp, I began writing songs about the environment, which led to composing instrumentals on my Celtic harp and dulcimer.

Then I began playing with Colonial balladeer  Linda Russell’s band at historic sites. Soon, my husband, Dan, and I started doing our own Colonial concerts in costume. When we moved to Nashville, TN, where I became a Nashville songwriter for eight years, I had to change eras and learn repertoire from the 19th century. I  switched from wearing panniers and sack dresses to antebellum attire, including 19th century corsets and hoops.

Dan and I now live in New England, where once again we play popular music of the 18th century. We have a Colonial Christmas show that includes readings from the period, music, and props. I still perform a History of Christmas Customs show I have been doing since 1989, in which I sing in five languages and wear a quasi-medieval gown and a holly wreath in my wig.

When I started playing harp in 1984, most Americans had never seen a Celtic harp. People used to ask, “Is that a regular harp?” or “Why aren’t you playing Irish music on it?” I told them my harp was from a different, older tradition than the pedal harps in orchestras today. Then I would explain that I was primarily a singer/songwriter, not a traditional Celtic musician, however, my repertoire does include Irish and Scottish music.

These days, Dan and I play Celtic music when we join our friend, Michael O’Leary, who runs a Celtic music sail aboard a 19th century reproduction schooner out of Gloucester, MA. We also join a group of friends to sing sea chanteys at a Salem brew pub once a month. I often find myself rushing around, trying to remember what kind of music I need to practice for that particular week’s event. It would be easy to get mixed up and arrive somewhere in costume (or not), having prepared for the wrong event. I wrote a song years ago about being booked by phone for a recording session only to show up and find that the producer thought he was booking the other kind of harp: a harmonica, for a rock session!

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